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2011 Re-Cap

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2011 was a big year for me. I’m still dealing with the changes and transitions (hence this blog). I am hoping 2012 will feel more settled and yet, will also bring more opportunities to help me find out what I really want to do and where I really fit in. Sounds contradictory, eh?

2011 Re-Cap

I graduated from the University of Nevada, Reno with a BA in General Studies w/ an emphasis in Dance and Journalism and my husband graduated from his academy.

We said goodbye to Reno, Nevada and said hello to Pleasant Hill, California.

We got married on September 4th.

And that about does it. But let’s recognize that these are huge changes in one’s life. I am thankful I finally got to walk across the stage to receive my “thanks for participating” scroll after being in college for quite some time. I used to say I wouldn’t get married until I was 30, after having established my own career and place to live. But here I am at 24 and married. I have met the most amazing man to share my life with and after everything we have gone through together, I couldn’t imagine this journey with anyone else. Thankfully in 2011, I didn’t have a sonogram to share (side note). Although motherhood is knocking on my vagina door, I still have some things I need to figure out for myself. There are things I need to function in life and making an impact, through dance, film, photography, whatever, is something I need. 2012, I’m hoping and praying, will help me find a way to do so.

Cheers to 2011 and the quarter life crisis forced upon me!

Congrats, Grads

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Congratulations, graduates! All of your hard work (and hard play) has finally payed off. You get to walk down the aisle, across the stage fully adorned in your cap and gown and be handed a small piece of paper that says, “Thanks for participating.”

You only get to wear a fancy, colorful gown if you are graduating with honors, or are getting your graduate degree. Your small piece of paper is not a diploma, which will be mailed to you after it is determined whether you truly passed all of your classes or not. And once you laugh with your friends, take photos with family members, the reality of it sinks in and you realize in 6 months your student loans will kick in which means you need a job ASAP and you suddenly feel strapped down to a $20,000 debt. Once you start applying for jobs, your only options that turn up are retail and fast food, none of which care about or honor your degree. You try to move out on your own, only to find yourself back at home a month later. Mac and cheese is all you eat and a hopeful future is nowhere in sight.

Just kidding!

No, but really. Graduating for me was awesome. I finally had something to show for being in college for a long period of time. I was so ready to leave where I was and start my life.

And then the meltdowns started happening…

Six months later, I’m still not sure what I am doing with my life. But I know that at this point, I have no excuses. I still refuse to be someone who works a 9-5 they hate (and I’m thankful I don’t have to). So congrats, grads! But just make sure you stay positive, stay focused on your dreams and don’t be so delusional. This economy sucks, life is hard. We survive. Be smart and aware. None of this prepares us for the “real world.” Unless you decide to literally join MTV’s Real World and in that case, consider yourself meltdown status. But we don’t need to figure everything out now, we have time. We need to be flexible and open. And making a ton of money should never be our goal. Our goal should be to love one another and live our life to the fullest.

So again, congratulations and best of luck to you, graduates!

And if you need it, you can find forums on this website offering advice, as well as chat with other twenty somethings who are just as dazed and confused as you are: http://www.quarterlifecrisis.com/

 

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